PTSD Spirituality: Another Memorial Day … Damn

Fair Warning: This is not a “Patriotic” essay.Dragon Grapihte 2

Memorial Day: We’ll get our share of drive-by caring and plastic patriotism. In some areas we will have to endure fireworks. And, we will have to deal with the specter of those afflicted with Compassion Deficit Disorder (CDD) … nothing quite like being blamed for having PTSD, sensitivity to triggers, and living in a fear-state, just because we “couldn’t hack it” or because we are “cowards.” The news media, practicing a predictable “calendar journalism,” will show a brief uptick of interest in those with military service.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD Tries to Change Our Hearts

PTSD wants to give us an involuntary heart transplant.

Tiger in GrassIt wants to replace a warm, beating, heart with a cold as ice, mechanical, heart. It wants to change out a heart that is loving, warm, and willing to be vulnerable, with a clockwork machine, which is indifferent to itself and others, and is so scared it refuses to risk opening up to others.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Infidelity, Should I Stay or Should I Go?

PTSD and infidelity often go together.  Should you stay with a spouse or partner with PTSD who cheats on you sexually? Is the PTSD an excuse for infidelity, or is the person just an asshat who is a cheater with or without PTSD?

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PTSD Spirituality: PTSD, Statements and Exclamation Points

I had two encounters with the phrase “Make a Statement!” recently. In both cases it related to buying cars. And, as is often the case with me, I started thinking about the phrase in terms of PTSD and Spirituality.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Making Tomorrow Better Than Yesterday

In the last couple of months I’ve learned more about how to live the day that follows after a rotten PTSD-wracked day. Usually, the waves generated by a bad PTSD day will try to flood the following days. Even if we find a “boat” to ride out the waves, sometimes those PTSD waves still splash over the side and soak us. Is there any hope?[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Not Morally Deficient, We’re Protective

Is a person with PTSD “morally deficient” if they self-medicate with PTSD-coping behaviors in order to protect others?[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Resolutions, Staying Realistic

The previous PTSD Spirituality essay dealt with the benefits and risks of making resolutions. For those of us who carry the PTSD soul wound, we need to maximize opportunities of healing and minimize the potential pitfalls that often try to take root within us. These parameters apply in our day to day outlook as well as in any pre-planned life changes (resolutions) we may be contemplating.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Two Final Points on the PTSD-Identity’s Toxic Goals

We have examined the three toxic goals of the PTSD-Identity (links to each separate essay are included further down).  As we finish that topic off (for now) we still need to ask about the sequencing of these three life-destroying goals.  Additionally, can we use this information to pursue healing and not only use it too quantify damage?[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD’s Third Goal is Physical Harm

If PTSD has achieved its first two goals, then it will shift to concentrate on its third and final goal.  This final goal seeks physical harm and destruction of the person who suffers from PTSD.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD’s Second Goal is to Isolate You

In an attempt to reduce vulnerability to triggers, the trauma survivor may isolate themselves from outside stimuli and also from other people, including family and friends.  One of PTSD’s motives for this isolation comes from the disruption of trust.  The PTSD-Identity wants us to abandon trust and embrace isolation.[Continue Reading…]