PTSD Spirituality: Infidelity, Should I Stay or Should I Go?

PTSD and infidelity often go together.  Should you stay with a spouse or partner with PTSD who cheats on you sexually? Is the PTSD an excuse for infidelity, or is the person just an asshat who is a cheater with or without PTSD?

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PTSD Spirituality: Cheating Spouses, Infidelity, and PTSD

 

Having a loved one with PTSD is an exceptionally hard experience. We watch them suffer and we also suffer. Sometimes the PTSD, mixed with alcohol and porn, leads to infidelity and the leading of a double life. What can we understand about this situation? Is there Hope? Is there anything we can do? The following observations apply to my experience with military trauma survivors as well as those who have survived rape or molestation.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Time Management, Productivity, and Grace

The other day I had a successful, productive day: I worked for about 25 minutes. They were good minutes, each one, well employed. In my past, working for “only” 25 minutes would be an embarrassment. These days, I can honestly ask and assess if I’ve been true to myself and to my abilities.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Not Morally Deficient, We’re Protective

Is a person with PTSD “morally deficient” if they self-medicate with PTSD-coping behaviors in order to protect others?[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Why Deny the Possibility of PTSD?

Why do PTSD-sufferers sometimes refuse to admit they have PTSD?  Some trauma survivors will deny they have PTSD.  Their PTSD-coping behaviors damage themselves and their most important relationships, but they refuse the possibility of PTSD even though they have survived trauma.  At times, someone who earlier recognized they may have PTSD may later deny it.  What gives here?  What follows is not so much an essay as quick thoughts written during my latest round of insomnia.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD’s Third Goal is Physical Harm

If PTSD has achieved its first two goals, then it will shift to concentrate on its third and final goal.  This final goal seeks physical harm and destruction of the person who suffers from PTSD.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD’s Second Goal is to Isolate You

In an attempt to reduce vulnerability to triggers, the trauma survivor may isolate themselves from outside stimuli and also from other people, including family and friends.  One of PTSD’s motives for this isolation comes from the disruption of trust.  The PTSD-Identity wants us to abandon trust and embrace isolation.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: The First Goal of the PTSD-Identity

PTSD endeavors to ravage us in multiple ways.  While there are a variety of ways it can damage us, there tend to be three things the PTSD-Identity strives to do on the spiritual level.  PTSD has three goals: goals that are so toxic that they have the potential to destroy us.  These three goals are so poisonous that not only do they harm the particular trauma survivor, but they also seek to harm those who care about them.  And, the more we love and care about the trauma survivor, the more likely we are to get splashed by the PTSD-Identity’s three toxic goals.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Thoughts on the PTSD-Identity

PTSD attempts to overrun our identity, it can damage our souls.  It is almost as if our own identity is a computer hard drive and the PTSD attempts to overwrite it; as if it inserts new code and instructions.  It’s as if the PTSD tries to erase our initial identity.  This new operating code damages our ability and acceptance of committed love, compassion, and our former appreciation of healthy relationships and behaviors.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Is PTSD An Excuse For Bad Behaviors Like Porn Addiction?

PTSD can affect our identity and our behaviors.  Unchecked, PTSD will make us more selfish, uncaring, and discompassionate (is that a word?).  It can also make us feel a bit paranoid, persecuted, and misunderstood; thus, we often damage our relationships.  Are we responsible for the harm caused by our PTSD behavior?  Do we get a “free pass” on the ethical frontier because we have the PTSD soul wound?  [Continue Reading…]