PTSD Spirituality: Feeling Guilty, Feeling Too Responsible

Trauma survivors often feel too responsible for things over which they have had no control. This is one of two extremes that PTSD often inflicts upon us. One extreme is that we feel too responsible for outcomes which we have no control over. The other extreme is that we feel no responsibility for anything, including our own actions. This latter extreme is often associated with spouses and partners who become promiscuous and uncaring after surviving trauma. This essay will focus on the first extreme.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Defeat PTSD-Identity with Art and Creativity

Learning to Draw

Learning to Draw

Art and any form of creativity help us to heal from our PTSD.  Creativity beats back PTSD’s assault against our personal identity, against our sense of self. PTSD wants us to feel we are worthless, we have no value, and that we are so tainted by trauma that there is no hope for us. Exercising creativity can be painful, physically, psychologically, and spiritually, but the pain can help us heal and defeat the PTSD-Identity.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Breaking PTSD’s Attempts to Isolate Us

Outside with the Sunflower

Outside with the Sunflower

When we are afflicted with PTSD we become more vulnerable to self-isolation. If our PTSD-induced behaviors have damaged enough of our healthiest relationships, then we will sometimes find that others have become alienated from us and we become further isolated.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Expect Intensity in Relationships

Feathers

Feathers

People with PTSD can have successful relationships, even with other people who have PTSD. Yet, PTSD adds extra challenges to our relationships. One of these additional challenges is intensity. When PTSD endeavors to change our identity it attempts to turn the intensity dial to one extreme or another. PTSD makes us intense, sometimes too intense.

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PTSD Spirituality: PTSD Seeks Our Disease (WB)

Send More Catnip!It is no secret that PTSD seeks to destroy us. It desires to make us unstable, unpredictable, and unreliable. By doing so, it corrodes our best and most healthy relationships (Yikes! The cat just explored the keyboard – again – and I need to retype some things). So, even the cat agrees, PTSD is out to harm us and then to harm others by rendering us unpredictable (Meow! Make him stop typing so he’ll get back to petting me!)…er, umm, well, it seems I have a co-typist today.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD Tries to Change Our Hearts

PTSD wants to give us an involuntary heart transplant.

Tiger in GrassIt wants to replace a warm, beating, heart with a cold as ice, mechanical, heart. It wants to change out a heart that is loving, warm, and willing to be vulnerable, with a clockwork machine, which is indifferent to itself and others, and is so scared it refuses to risk opening up to others.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Can Someone with PTSD Love?

Can a person with PTSD love another person? Can a person with PTSD allow themselves to be loved? Can a person with PTSD have healthy and loving relationships? I Love this Guy and He Loves Me!

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PTSD Spirituality: Cheating Spouses, Infidelity, and PTSD

 

Having a loved one with PTSD is an exceptionally hard experience. We watch them suffer and we also suffer. Sometimes the PTSD, mixed with alcohol and porn, leads to infidelity and the leading of a double life. What can we understand about this situation? Is there Hope? Is there anything we can do? The following observations apply to my experience with military trauma survivors as well as those who have survived rape or molestation.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: PTSD, Statements and Exclamation Points

I had two encounters with the phrase “Make a Statement!” recently. In both cases it related to buying cars. And, as is often the case with me, I started thinking about the phrase in terms of PTSD and Spirituality.[Continue Reading…]

PTSD Spirituality: Making Tomorrow Better Than Yesterday

In the last couple of months I’ve learned more about how to live the day that follows after a rotten PTSD-wracked day. Usually, the waves generated by a bad PTSD day will try to flood the following days. Even if we find a “boat” to ride out the waves, sometimes those PTSD waves still splash over the side and soak us. Is there any hope?[Continue Reading…]