Trauma survivors often feel too responsible for things over which they have had no control. This is one of two extremes that PTSD often inflicts upon us. One extreme is that we feel too responsible for outcomes which we have no control over. The other extreme is that we feel no responsibility for anything, including our own actions. This latter extreme is often associated with spouses and partners who become promiscuous and uncaring after surviving trauma. This essay will focus on the first extreme.[Continue Reading…]
When we are afflicted with PTSD we become more vulnerable to self-isolation. If our PTSD-induced behaviors have damaged enough of our healthiest relationships, then we will sometimes find that others have become alienated from us and we become further isolated.[Continue Reading…]
People with PTSD can have successful relationships, even with other people who have PTSD. Yet, PTSD adds extra challenges to our relationships. One of these additional challenges is intensity. When PTSD endeavors to change our identity it attempts to turn the intensity dial to one extreme or another. PTSD makes us intense, sometimes too intense.
It is no secret that PTSD seeks to destroy us. It desires to make us unstable, unpredictable, and unreliable. By doing so, it corrodes our best and most healthy relationships (Yikes! The cat just explored the keyboard – again – and I need to retype some things). So, even the cat agrees, PTSD is out to harm us and then to harm others by rendering us unpredictable (Meow! Make him stop typing so he’ll get back to petting me!)…er, umm, well, it seems I have a co-typist today.[Continue Reading…]
PTSD wants to give us an involuntary heart transplant.
It wants to replace a warm, beating, heart with a cold as ice, mechanical, heart. It wants to change out a heart that is loving, warm, and willing to be vulnerable, with a clockwork machine, which is indifferent to itself and others, and is so scared it refuses to risk opening up to others.[Continue Reading…]
Having a loved one with PTSD is an exceptionally hard experience. We watch them suffer and we also suffer. Sometimes the PTSD, mixed with alcohol and porn, leads to infidelity and the leading of a double life. What can we understand about this situation? Is there Hope? Is there anything we can do? The following observations apply to my experience with military trauma survivors as well as those who have survived rape or molestation.[Continue Reading…]
I had two encounters with the phrase “Make a Statement!” recently. In both cases it related to buying cars. And, as is often the case with me, I started thinking about the phrase in terms of PTSD and Spirituality.[Continue Reading…]
In the last couple of months I’ve learned more about how to live the day that follows after a rotten PTSD-wracked day. Usually, the waves generated by a bad PTSD day will try to flood the following days. Even if we find a “boat” to ride out the waves, sometimes those PTSD waves still splash over the side and soak us. Is there any hope?[Continue Reading…]