As survivors and healers we continue to grow in our journey to health and personal authenticity. We are analogous to oak trees that have survived the traumatic whirlwinds and hurricanes of would-be loggers who only want to turn us into lumber. We can provide the shade to help keep the vulnerable and broken from being burned.[Continue Reading…]
I remain constantly amazed at the fortitude and strength that each of you exhibits daily in your own PTSD journey and also by those of you who care for, or who are damaged by, someone else’s PTSD journey. You each deserve a soundtrack.[Continue Reading…]
When we are afflicted with PTSD we become more vulnerable to self-isolation. If our PTSD-induced behaviors have damaged enough of our healthiest relationships, then we will sometimes find that others have become alienated from us and we become further isolated.[Continue Reading…]
This essay is lengthy and speaks to my ability to continue with this website. It’s rather personal. Pack a lunch and dry socks.
Since posting last, nearly five weeks ago, much has occurred: it feels as if I’m alternating between the decks of two different ships, circling one another on a rather choppy sea. One is a Ship of Light and the other is a Ship of Fog. Sometimes, they collide with one another.[Continue Reading…]
PTSD and infidelity often go together. Should you stay with a spouse or partner with PTSD who cheats on you sexually? Is the PTSD an excuse for infidelity, or is the person just an asshat who is a cheater with or without PTSD?
Having a loved one with PTSD is an exceptionally hard experience. We watch them suffer and we also suffer. Sometimes the PTSD, mixed with alcohol and porn, leads to infidelity and the leading of a double life. What can we understand about this situation? Is there Hope? Is there anything we can do? The following observations apply to my experience with military trauma survivors as well as those who have survived rape or molestation.[Continue Reading…]
“How and why should we believe there is hope?”
There are many possible responses to this question. And, I myself have asked this same question (more times than I care to really admit), especially as it has to do with my decisions to not commit suicide.[Continue Reading…]
In the last couple of months I’ve learned more about how to live the day that follows after a rotten PTSD-wracked day. Usually, the waves generated by a bad PTSD day will try to flood the following days. Even if we find a “boat” to ride out the waves, sometimes those PTSD waves still splash over the side and soak us. Is there any hope?[Continue Reading…]
Part of the PTSD survivor’s journey is dealing with setbacks. Things are running relatively smoothly in one’s life, avoiding self-medication, controlling anger and trust issues, and staying careful about known triggers. Then suddenly there is a PTSD episode. Symptoms flare up, often a relationship gets strained or annihilated, one may return to alcohol, drugs, or porn to offset the memories, to offset the burden of feeling one’s own existence so acutely. At this moment, the PTSD-Identity will encourage you to give up hope, isolate yourself from healthy relationships, take the drugs, and eventually kill yourself. What can we do?[Continue Reading…]