Trauma survivors often feel too responsible for things over which they have had no control. This is one of two extremes that PTSD often inflicts upon us. One extreme is that we feel too responsible for outcomes which we have no control over. The other extreme is that we feel no responsibility for anything, including our own actions. This latter extreme is often associated with spouses and partners who become promiscuous and uncaring after surviving trauma. This essay will focus on the first extreme.[Continue Reading…]
Why? Because the holidays … holi-daze … emphasis on “daze,“ are upon us again! We are back in what I call the “18% PTSD Danger Zone” that stems from around Veterans Day through Epiphany next January. It is a time period when PTSD triggers are gruesomely prevalent and we are at even greater risk of alienation, isolation, and self-harm.[Continue Reading…]
I remain constantly amazed at the fortitude and strength that each of you exhibits daily in your own PTSD journey and also by those of you who care for, or who are damaged by, someone else’s PTSD journey. You each deserve a soundtrack.[Continue Reading…]
A period of thawing out from PTSD’s ice tomb of isolation can occur as we learn how to understand and manage our PTSD. As we crack out of our PTSD-induced Ice Age, we become less frozen in terms of our relationships with our own selves, our various communities, God, and the Creation. Like a Spring thaw it can be a period which allows for the germination of new life. And like a Spring thaw, it can rapidly melt the ice and raise the water over our head. In this sense, the process of thawing out from our PTSD isolation can feel like a two-edged sword.[Continue Reading…]
When we are afflicted with PTSD we become more vulnerable to self-isolation. If our PTSD-induced behaviors have damaged enough of our healthiest relationships, then we will sometimes find that others have become alienated from us and we become further isolated.[Continue Reading…]
One of the many “joys” of having PTSD is that we can get triggered by events and situations which have nothing to do with our initial traumas. Depending on levels of stress one can be more susceptible to activation of their PTSD symptoms and behaviors. Such has been my life of late. O’ Joy, O’ Bliss! Lucky Me![Continue Reading…]
Recently, those of us with PTSD were further stigmatized by being labeled as weak by a major party presidential candidate. He stated that military personnel who are not strong enough have gotten PTSD. This is a false statement, probably based on ignorance and not malice.
If you have PTSD, you are not weak. You have plenty of strength, plenty of character. It is not a case of not being strong enough. We have been wounded both physically and spiritually. Trauma wounds our brains and it wounds our souls.[Continue Reading…]
PTSD will endeavor to make us refuse human contact. It wants us to be isolated from healthy relationships. It wants us to disintegrate as social and spiritual beings. As bad as that is, PTSD-survivors can be pushed into further isolation due to issues with trust, or encounters with dickweeds and/or vampires (And, yes, I used the word “trust” in a sentence).[Continue Reading…]
People with PTSD can have successful relationships, even with other people who have PTSD. Yet, PTSD adds extra challenges to our relationships. One of these additional challenges is intensity. When PTSD endeavors to change our identity it attempts to turn the intensity dial to one extreme or another. PTSD makes us intense, sometimes too intense.